In today’s world of endless social media and digital communication, sexting is more relevant than ever, and it’s an important and effective way to seduce a man.
But let’s be real, not everyone is so comfortable sending sexy texts. The big fear is coming across as awkward or desperate.
The most important rule to keep in mind when sending sexy texts is to do what feels comfortable and natural to you. This is about getting in touch with your sensuality, and sharing that with your partner (which, in turn, will get him very much in touch with his sensuality, and from there the flames of passion will really ignite!)
Your vibe is everything. If you send him a text from a place of feeling insecure and trying too hard, then he’ll feel it and will not be turned on. If you text him from a place of genuinely feeling turned on by him, then he’ll feel that too and it will create a whole different reaction!
In this article, I’m sharing specific text messages that will definitely turn your man on. There is a big variety to choose from so you can go with what feels the most natural to you, no feeling awkward or uncomfortable. Use these texts verbatim with a copy-paste job, or put your own spin on them. The most important thing to remember is to always be true to who you are!
Now let’s get to it and look at 103 sexy texts to get him in the mood:
Sexting has a few key benefits:
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I am going to provide specific texts you can use as a guideline. You can even copy and paste directly from here. Read the text, if it applies to you and you want to send, go for it! If it just feels wrong to you, as in way out of character and far beyond the walls of your comfort zone, don’t do it. If you’re a sexting novice, ease in with something a little more subtle and innocent. If you’re a sexting champion, go for one of the bolder options to up the ante.
For some texts, you can change the details around to match your situation. The point is to use these scripts as a starting point, not a be all end all. These texts are by no means the “only ones” to use.
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rude things to say to someone you hate 🔥how to rude things to say to someone you hate for To make your life easier, I’ve included not just texts but specific types of texts.
If you’re into being direct and forward, you’ll get those texts. If you want to be innocent and teasing, you can go right to that section.
What matters most is to make sure your texts match the reality of your situation. This means: don’t send explicit texts if you haven’t even kissed the man yet. I knew a woman who met a guy and thought they hit it off. The guy was sort of interested but did not expect the crazy text she ended up sending him.
Note: don’t use this text ever: “I secretly stopped taking birth control 2 months ago.”
3 minutes later…
rude things to say to someone you hate 🔥how to rude things to say to someone you hate for “Just kidding. I was just messing with you. Sorry. What I was thinking was I need you to make me pregnant. It’s so hot.”
rude things to say to someone you hate ☑how to rude things to say to someone you hate for So that’s an example of what not to do. Now let’s talk about sexy texts that actually work.
Here are the categories of texts I’m going to include:
Innocent questions are good for two reasons.
#1: You don’t embarrass yourself or feel awkward—you start slow and don’t have to worry about coming on too strong, etc.
#2: Men are often turned on by innocence—not in a creepy way—more like a “wanting to corrupt the innocence” way.
Some of these texts (like number 4) are perfect if you don’t feel comfortable yet, but want to hint that there’s a whole different sexual side that you haven’t expressed:
These are good, but only if he gets your sense of humor. Don’t send these if there’s a chance he for 1 last update 2020/02/23 will misinterpret it. Also, don’t send these unless you know him pretty well:These are good, but only if he gets your sense of humor. Don’t send these if there’s a chance he will misinterpret it. Also, don’t send these unless you know him pretty well:
Teasing a man is going to drive him nuts. This is good as long as you get together later and don’t just tease for 1 last update 2020/02/23 him and leave him with a sad case of blue balls:Teasing a man is going to drive him nuts. This is good as long as you get together later and don’t just tease him and leave him with a sad case of blue balls:
The purpose of these is to create sexual tension before you have some “special” time together:
Intrigue is sexy. These texts will get him thinking and will spark some fun, flirty, and sexy banter … and maybe even lead to something more:
These texts are perfect for couples, especially those who want to bring some heat back into the relationship:
Some men can’t get enough of for 1 last update 2020/02/23 a woman who is direct and straightforward, especially sexually. Now, I am not saying you need to be a dominatrix; all you need is clarity. Say what you mean and mean what you say.Some men can’t get enough of a woman who is direct and straightforward, especially sexually. Now, I am not saying you need to be a dominatrix; all you need is clarity. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
If you’re in a relationship, straightforward is good. Or if there is clear sexual interest between the two of you, being straightforward is a good approach. Obviously, don’t send these sorts of texts very early on, and don’t send them if you’re uncomfortable! Send these only if you feel really open and comfortable with each other:
These sexy texts get straight to the point. They’re raw, bold, and super direct. He definitely won’t question how badly you want him if you send any of these, that’s for sure:
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Sending a picture will appeal to his basic instinct, men are visual creatures after all. But don’t do this unless you trust him completely. And I am not saying you have to do this—but the truth is it works. Don’t do this if you aren’t comfortable—obviously—and if you don’t trust the person.
I can’t leave you with just specific scripts without offering key insight into what mindset makes texts sexy. This will make all the difference when it comes to whether he is turned on or not.
One key to sending a text that turns him on is to be comfortable with what you send. Don’t send a text you think should work because someone said it should. Being comfortable and relaxed is sexy. Being confident is sexy.
Men can be turned off by your vibe if you text with an agenda; in other words, using scripts that sound sexy but make you feel uneasy actually sending won’t turn him on the same way something genuine would.
Remember, not everyone is attracted to the same energy. If you change yourself and try to seem like a different person in order to please a man you might succeed partially in the short term, but this isn’t sustainable in the long term. Your true self will always emerge in the end and men can pick up on more than you think.
If you come from a place of wanting him to feel a certain way about you, and now from a place of authentically showing how you feel, then you’re starting off from a flimsy foundation and it won’t take long for the chemistry and connection to fizzle out.
Trick question… the text message does not have the agenda. The mentality behind the text message does.
No Agenda: You feel turned on remembering how he kissed you and say it in a text. You say exactly what you feel. And don’t mind whether he replies or not; you don’t freak out. All you are doing is expressing something you feel.
Agenda: You think he likes forward girls so you make sure to send a text that sounds dominant and like you’re a woman in charge when in reality you just want to be submissive and shy. You try to seem different, though, because you read or heard that men are turned on by a certain kind of attitude and so you send a super direct text despite feeling completely uncomfortable.
rude things to say to someone you hate 👍how to rude things to say to someone you hate for What creates an agenda is how you feel about whether he replies or not. Would your world be crushed and would you feel stupid if he didn’t reply? This means you’re going to end up having some kind of an agenda or expected outcome (expected outcome = him replying in a certain way).
rude things to say to someone you hate ☑how to rude things to say to someone you hate for On the flip side, when you for 1 last update 2020/02/23 are OK regardless of whether he replies or not, then you are being authentic and don’t have an agenda.On the flip side, when you are OK regardless of whether he replies or not, then you are being authentic and don’t have an agenda.
To sum it up… an agenda means you have a specific outcome in mind that you need to have happen in order to feel OK. If you don’t get this outcome, you feel disappointed, depressed, and possibly even angry.
Having expectations creates an opportunity for you to be disappointed.
Another pitfall with having expectations is you focus more on the outcome—the end result—rather than the quality of the experience. Focusing on the end result means you pay attention to how he responds to each tiny move you make—if his response indicates you’re getting closer to the outcome you want, you’re happy.
rude things to say to someone you hate 👍how to rude things to say to someone you hate for If he doesn’t respond, or his response indicates that he’s not interested? You’re upset, analyze what went wrong, and try to “fix” the outcome by “doing things” in a specific way designed to obtain something.
Drop the question and mantra of: “how will what I for 1 last update 2020/02/23 am sending and saying directly impact whether he marries me/dates me/loves me in the future?”Drop the question and mantra of: “how will what I am sending and saying directly impact whether he marries me/dates me/loves me in the future?”
Enjoy the quality of the the 1 last update 2020/02/23 time you spend with him. Enjoy the fun of texting (sexting) and you will find that this mentality applies to almost every aspect of dating, not just sexting.Enjoy the quality of the time you spend with him. Enjoy the fun of texting (sexting) and you will find that this mentality applies to almost every aspect of dating, not just sexting.
These sexy texts are sure to capture his attention and rouse his interest, but that’s not always enough. There is more you need to know, specifically, the two key moments in any relationship that will decide if you last forever, or if you end up heartbroken and alone. At some point, a man will ask himself: Do I want to commit to this woman? He may begin to have doubts and feel unsure. Do you know what makes a man see a woman as girlfriend material? Do you know what inspires a man to commit? If not, you need to read this next The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
The next issue arises when he starts to pull away. It looks like he’s losing interest in you. He’s not as responsive, he’s not as attentive, and things just feel off. Do you now what to do to get things back on track? If not, read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
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